The holy threesome and all beyond (not so mild spoilers)
Another threesome movie has arrived. Even if Spike Lee's She Hate Me involves more than three people it still comes back to the holy threesome. This of course is an old theme that Hollywood and non-Hollywood have been battling with for as long as they have produced films. Usually it is a woman/man who is torn between two of the opposite gender. However there are films that problematize the dangerous threesome and adds the sexuality aspect. Films with this theme are Threesome (yes its from the mid 90's but still quite contemprary eh?) and Y tu mama tambien (Mexican road-move from late 90's too).
Threesome is about a straight man, a gay man and a straight girl. They are turned on by eachother. The straight girl is attracted to the gay guy, the gay guy wants the straight male, and the straight man wants the straight girl. They decide after a drunken night to try to have sex the three of them. But this actually makes the friendship between the three break up. The sensomorale seems to be not to play with your friends I guess. And that you should not mix genders in a dorm because it will end in no good...(?!?) In Y Tu Mama Tambien there is two straight guys who want to get busy an older woman. They also have sex and the relationship breaks down, and the woman even dies in the end. Here the morale of the boys and the lack of it from the woman leads them to a devastating end.
She Hate Me adds another layer to the problem. Here it is two lesbians who wants a child and the ex-boyfriend who comes into picture to breed. However the strong lesbian relationship in the beginning seems to become more unsure after the sex. However the ending suggests something different than Threesome and Y Tu Mama Tambien. The traditional ending would have been in that of a living hell and unhappiness. However not in this film, because it ends in a happy threesome. Or rather a relationship between three adult people. Maybe this was possible solely because they are attracted to the "right" person in the relationship (which does not happen in T and YTMT). This is still a break with the traditional ending.
Why is it that T’s and YTMT’s threesome ends with unhappiness? Maybe this is a cope-out to the more traditional family values where sex outside a commited heterosexual relationship is something bad. Also this could be a re-conformation of the happy twosome. The earlier movies seems to say it is OK to fool around with it, but then you always have to deal with the consequences. And it always ends bad. However is this always the case? Is it possible to love more than one person? To have a relationship that crosses the Western traditional two-makes-a-couple-setting? She Hate Me seems to suggest just that.
In the Bible there is of course lots of examples of threesomes. The three wise men for one thing, but also of course God, Jesus and the Holy Ghost. Maybe it is possible to let the holy script lead the way and to make an exploration of the threesome as something else than sinful and bound for disaster. For this I applaud Spike Lee for putting She hate Me out there, but at the same time I would like to see a film where it is explored fully and not as just one plot of many.
Threesome is about a straight man, a gay man and a straight girl. They are turned on by eachother. The straight girl is attracted to the gay guy, the gay guy wants the straight male, and the straight man wants the straight girl. They decide after a drunken night to try to have sex the three of them. But this actually makes the friendship between the three break up. The sensomorale seems to be not to play with your friends I guess. And that you should not mix genders in a dorm because it will end in no good...(?!?) In Y Tu Mama Tambien there is two straight guys who want to get busy an older woman. They also have sex and the relationship breaks down, and the woman even dies in the end. Here the morale of the boys and the lack of it from the woman leads them to a devastating end.
She Hate Me adds another layer to the problem. Here it is two lesbians who wants a child and the ex-boyfriend who comes into picture to breed. However the strong lesbian relationship in the beginning seems to become more unsure after the sex. However the ending suggests something different than Threesome and Y Tu Mama Tambien. The traditional ending would have been in that of a living hell and unhappiness. However not in this film, because it ends in a happy threesome. Or rather a relationship between three adult people. Maybe this was possible solely because they are attracted to the "right" person in the relationship (which does not happen in T and YTMT). This is still a break with the traditional ending.
Why is it that T’s and YTMT’s threesome ends with unhappiness? Maybe this is a cope-out to the more traditional family values where sex outside a commited heterosexual relationship is something bad. Also this could be a re-conformation of the happy twosome. The earlier movies seems to say it is OK to fool around with it, but then you always have to deal with the consequences. And it always ends bad. However is this always the case? Is it possible to love more than one person? To have a relationship that crosses the Western traditional two-makes-a-couple-setting? She Hate Me seems to suggest just that.
In the Bible there is of course lots of examples of threesomes. The three wise men for one thing, but also of course God, Jesus and the Holy Ghost. Maybe it is possible to let the holy script lead the way and to make an exploration of the threesome as something else than sinful and bound for disaster. For this I applaud Spike Lee for putting She hate Me out there, but at the same time I would like to see a film where it is explored fully and not as just one plot of many.
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